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Coach Sandi Boyd

Flirting 101 for the Savvy & Successful Woman

The first key to successful flirting is not an ability to show off and impress, but the knack of conveying that you like someone. If your 'target' knows that you find him interesting and attractive, he will be more inclined to like you.  When you first meet new people, their initial impression of you will be based 55% on your appearance and body-language, 38% on your style of speaking and only 7% on what you actually say.

Do initiate flirtation with men of roughly the same level of attractiveness as yourself: This will give you the best chance of compatibility. Most successful relationships are between partners of more or less equal good looks. 

Don't flirt with men who are unlikely to return your interest. So it makes sense to approach people who are likely to see you as at least a possible partner, rather than those likely to dismiss you as unsuitable. Use the non-verbal signals to assess approachability.

Use Non-Verbal Flirting Techniques:

Eye contact – You can signal your interest in someone merely by making eye contact and attempting to hold your target's gaze for more than one second (not too much more, though, or you will seem threatening). If your target maintains eye contact with you for more than one second, the chances are that he/she might return your interest. If they glance back and hold again – GO!!

Facial Expressions – SMILE!! We rely more on facial expressions than on any other aspect of body language. As a general rule, your face should be constantly informative during a flirtatious conversation. Inexpressiveness - a blank, unchanging face - will be interpreted as lack of interest.

Touch –Touching is a powerful, subtle and complex form of communication.  Experiments have shown that even a light, brief touch on the arm during a social encounter between strangers has both immediate and lasting positive effects. 

Vocal Signals – Attraction and interest, for example, are communicated much more by the tone of voice than by what is actually said. Depending on the tone, volume, speed and pitch, even a simple phrase such as "Good evening" can convey anything from “Wow, you're handsome” to "I find you totally uninteresting.” 

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